Why hello, neglected blog. I had no idea that I had been absent for an entire month!
I suppose I’ve been doing my best to be action-oriented as I discussed in this post in early January. I’ve never been great at keeping New Year’s resolutions which is why I rarely make them, but I’m really trying this year so I’d like to commit to monthly updates. Forgive me if these sound a bit self-absorbed. Here you go…
Resolution #1 — To be more action-oriented, particularly with my house
Here’s what I’ve accomplished so far:
- The basement is LOADS better. Gil has made at least three big trips to the dump/Goodwill/Habitat ReStore, and we have parted with a lot of stuff. I can actually walk into our basement without a strong, negative, visceral reaction. This is progress, folks. I no longer want to strangle my spouse because of his big pile of junk.
- I’ve hired someone to deep-clean our house twice since the beginning of the year. This is good, but I need to make sure this happens regularly — ideally every other week. It feels luxurious and expensive and because I am not working full-time and barely part-time, I shoulder a lot of guilt that I should be cleaning it. I have ridiculous conversations in my head, and I’ve concluded that we can afford it; no one expects me to be the sole cleaner; we (as in our entire family) are pretty much artsy, live-in-the-moment people who would really rather be doing anything other than deep-cleaning; boys pee on things, and as the only family member who goes sitting down, I resent wiping up smelly urine. I do better work when I’m not stressing about keeping a clean house, and we’re all in a better mood. Additionally, having someone come in twice a month forces us all to pick up our stuff. Therefore, clutter is automatically reduced.
- Yard work. I’ve been raking and tidying our backyard. This is something that I actually enjoy, but it’s usually neglected because I feel like I should be inside cleaning. Since I’ve been able to let go of the things I detest (scrubbing toilets and wiping up pee), I’ve had more time and energy to focus on the yards. We’ve had decent weather the past week, so I’ve enjoyed getting outside while the boys play. We even had some friends over this past Friday and I wasn’t doing my typical crazy-lady dance trying to company-fy my back yard.
Resolution #2 — Exercise regularly, yoga and cardio — I was striving for 5xs a week (yoga and cardio — something daily, both would be a plus)
- I’ve exercised, but nowhere near 5 days a week — lofty I suppose. I considered my start-date Sunday, January 6. Week 1 = 5 days of exercise total. I did 3 sessions on the elliptical machine and 3 sessions of yoga. Since consistency is my goal, and if you’re familiar with this blog you might remember that I’ve struggled with an eating disorder and exercise addiction, so while I want consistency, I’m also striving for balance. Regular exercise, nothing too crazy. Week 2 = 4 days — two of these days were hiking and snow tubing. Week 3 = 3 days — I know, not great. Week 4 = 1 day — I KNOW!!! Week 5 = 5 days, but I raked some serious leaves one day, so I think that should count — I’m calling it 6 days. Just reading back through this I can’t tell you how much my justifications take me back to the days when I worked as a nutritional counselor. I sound like some of my exercise-hating clients who used to work on my nerves, “I walked from my car to the store; I consider that exercise!” Puleeeeez…
- So from January 5 through February 11 here are some totals. Days on elliptical machine = 10. Total days practicing yoga = 8. Additionally I hiked a relatively easy 5 mile trail in North Carolina and spent a day snow tubing. I also had a couple of days where I raked leaves. Call me crazy, but I consider this exercise. Argue all you want but my back and shoulders were sore the next day — more so than when I do power yoga. It’s not CrossFit, and I’m not running marathons, but I’m gonna pat myself on the back. I’m hardly a lounger in my daily life, so this is good for structured exercise outside of my typically active day-to-day. And when I do work out, I go at it hard. I’m still striving for 5 days of exercise a week. Consistency!! It helps my mood tremendously.
Resolution #3 — Kissing for 10 seconds minimum daily
- Biggest FAIL of the year. So big in fact that it requires it’s own post — stay tuned. For now I’ll just leave it at this: I SUCK at being nice when I’m mad. Unfortunately when I was all gung-ho back in January, I had forgotten this not-so-lovely flaw of mine. I was talking to Mamala on the phone yesterday and she felt compelled to tell me that maybe it’s best for people like me to not be married. “Really, Honey, you’re not very good at it.” EXCUSE ME, MOTHER!!!!! I’m trying to let her shitty little comment go. I wasn’t aware that people were either good or bad at marriage. In fact, I’m more of the belief that relationships take work. Sometimes they take more work than other times. Here’s the take-away: Kissing is a good thing when it happens, and now that I’m in a place where I can rest assured that I will not bite Gil’s tongue off in anger, I’m willing to try again. Ten seconds a day — I can manage that, right?
Resolution #4 — Writing
- This is going well. I took a break from the morning pages with the hopes that I could use my writing time more effectively. I discovered that I need the brain drain that comes from writing morning pages — either that or I’ll have to go back to therapy, then there goes my housekeeping fund. Apparently I’m one of those people who needs to get stuff out. Otherwise I’m a dreadfully cranky spaz. I started back on the morning pages the beginning of February. Blogging hasn’t been happening, but I’m hoping to get in a few posts this week. I’m also working on my book (slow and steady) and helping out a friend with her editing business.
What about you? Did you make New Year’s resolutions? Are you sticking with them? Tell me, please. We can commiserate and possibly support each other.